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No contact
The no contact rule described honestly: what it is for, how long it runs, what counts as breaking it, and what it cannot do.
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No contact is the most repeated advice on the internet about breakups, and the least explained. It is a tool with a purpose — giving the habit of reaching for that person time to die down — not a trick for making anyone come back.
That distinction decides everything else on these pages. Run as recovery, no contact is simple and it works: you stop supplying the loop with fresh material, and the reflex fades the way reflexes do. Run as bait — silence with a countdown attached, waiting for them to crack — it keeps you fully attached while looking detached, which is the worst of both.
The hardest part is rarely the messaging. It is the checking: profiles, stories, mutual friends volunteering updates. Those count, they hurt the most, and the pages here treat them as contact rather than as a loophole.
These pages cover how it works, the situations that complicate it, and what to do with the days it frees up.
How to read this section
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It is a tool, not a contest
If you are counting days and waiting for them to break first, you are still in contact — silently. Nothing here is scored against the other person.
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Checking is contact
A story view costs a second and buys hours of processing. Every page here counts looking as breaking it, because that is how it behaves.
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There is no streak to lose
Accidental run-ins, a reply about logistics, one slip at two in the morning — none of that resets anything. What matters is what you choose to initiate next.
Where this section stops
No page here can tell you the number of days, and any that does is selling a product. What can be said honestly is what no contact is for, what counts as breaking it, and how to tell it is doing its job.
If you cannot avoid seeing the person — same office, same course, same friends — the rule translates to minimum voluntary contact rather than silence, and there is a page for exactly that.