# breakupnotes

> What to do after a breakup, how no contact actually works, and how people get over someone — written as plain notes, without slogans or false promises.

## The first weeks

- [Can't Sleep, Can't Eat: The Body After a Breakup](https://breakupnotes.com/after-a-breakup/cant-sleep-cant-eat/): Why a breakup hits sleep and appetite like an illness, what basic maintenance actually looks like, and the honest line where a page hands over to a doctor.
- [What to Do the Day of a Breakup](https://breakupnotes.com/after-a-breakup/first-day/): The first day, taken hour by hour: what needs doing tonight, what can wait, and the short list of things worth not doing while it is fresh.
- [How to Get Your Ex Back: The Honest Page](https://breakupnotes.com/after-a-breakup/get-your-ex-back/): What can truthfully be said about getting back together — why the internet sells methods that do not exist, and what to do with the wanting itself.
- [What to Do After a Breakup: The First Weeks](https://breakupnotes.com/after-a-breakup/this-week/): After the first day, the first weeks: the order that works, the logistics nobody warns you about, and the decisions that genuinely keep.

## No contact

- [The No Contact Rule, Explained Without the Magic](https://breakupnotes.com/no-contact/how-it-works/): What no contact is actually for, how long it runs, what counts as breaking it, and what it cannot do — the tool described honestly.
- [Signs No Contact Is Working (Honest Version)](https://breakupnotes.com/no-contact/is-it-working/): What the no contact rule can and cannot show you: the real signs it is doing its job, and why nobody can sell you signs your ex is coming back.
- [Should I Text My Ex? Answer This First](https://breakupnotes.com/no-contact/should-i-text-my-ex/): One question sorts almost every case: what do you want to happen after they read it? A decision guide for the urge, the birthday, and the late-night draft.
- [No Contact When You See Them Every Day](https://breakupnotes.com/no-contact/when-you-see-them/): Work, class, the gym, a shared friend group — how the no contact rule actually runs when full silence is impossible, and what still counts.

## Getting over it

- [Dreaming About Your Ex: What It Means (and Doesn't)](https://breakupnotes.com/moving-on/dreams-about-your-ex/): Why dreams about an ex are common long after the breakup, what can honestly be said about them, and when they are worth any attention at all.
- [Your Ex Moved On. What That Actually Tells You](https://breakupnotes.com/moving-on/ex-moved-on/): Seeing an ex with someone new — why it hurts more than the breakup itself, what their speed does and does not mean, and how to stop watching.
- [Can You Be Friends With Your Ex? A Test, Not a Verdict](https://breakupnotes.com/moving-on/friends-with-your-ex/): Friendship with an ex is real and rarer than people want. How to tell it apart from a waiting room, and when the attempt costs more than it gives.
- [How to Get Over a Breakup: What Helps and What Only Feels Like It](https://breakupnotes.com/moving-on/get-over/): How people actually get over someone — the mechanics of missing them, the ordinary things that shorten it, and the popular moves that quietly make it longer.
- [How Long Does It Take to Get Over a Breakup?](https://breakupnotes.com/moving-on/how-long/): Why every number you have seen is unsourced, what actually sets the speed of recovery, and how to measure progress without a calendar.
- [How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex (Without Fighting Every Thought)](https://breakupnotes.com/moving-on/stop-thinking-about-them/): Why ordering yourself not to think of them backfires, how the rumination loop actually runs, and the unglamorous moves that thin it out.

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